Some days you just get over it. You get over him not coming home for two months, You get over juggling the work of two while he is away. You just become done. I don’t think I am the only oilfield wife who feels this way either.
That’s phase 4 in the 5 phase cycle that at least I go through when he leaves.
Phase 1: “I got this” when I am in this phase I am rekindled, ready to take on the world again. I can start to accomplish everything I had been putting off and get back to my routine once he leaves.
Phase 2: “back to normal” I get off my soap box and my overly motivated kick and I just go back to my normal life, as being two people at once..
Phase 3: “You stop caring” you go about you life as if it is normal, you have your set times you can talk to him and that’s just how it is. He almost feels imaginary. You know that in two weeks if he comes home you need to take his stuff to the dry cleaners, and maybe go buy extra food. Other then that life is normal.
Phase 4: “over it” you want him home now. The patience is gone. The sweet loving I understands have run out. You don’t understand the extensive time spent there any longer. The extra hitches don’t matter anymore.
Lastly phase 5: “remembering why you do it.” He comes home and you get to hug him. You get to spend actually time together that’s not on the phone or face timing. You get to be with him while you sit comfortable in your beautiful house that he helped provide. You realize how hard he has been working and that he just needs a break from a 60 day hitch, not only that. You remember it’s worth it.
We all have hard working oilfield spouses who we love and want the best for. It may be hard on us and we may get to the point of done. Once you hit that point, remember this is the life style you choose, and you can do it. Because you done it a millions time before. Because you are the backbone to the Industry, and in all reality your love just becomes strong because you become stronger.
a newly married oilfield wife.